So, I start my day as usual with my routine work and social media browsing and then I come across a heated debate among my peers regarding – How movies depict that dreams come to reality and all goes hunky dory in the end, but that is hardly the case in real life!
Lets say the three people in the discussion were Joe, Barton and Me.
Joe : Videos like these that give false hope infuriate me. No, you won’t be a star. You aren’t special. You may not be the person you’ve always dreamt to be and you gotta deal with it. You can’t always follow your dreams and you have to do a practical 9-5 job and that just might be your life and you gotta get along with it. I hate the previous generation for fucking our lives up.
Barton : Well,art always has a special status,coz all other professions have a clear problem in front of them to solve,if their product/service solves that problem through direct logical ways,then they are through,they can earn money and make a living .
For artists,in the ideal sense,there’s nothing like a ready problem to solve,and all he tries is to touch his inner most self and express it.Hell,who is going to pay for your inner shit?No one wants to hear your polambals! Plus most of his creative ideas are wrong too!He doesn’t even know whether he is in sync with the reality around,he has a risk of becoming insane.Plus it takes years to master the craft aspects,without which he is just a bundle of hippy ideas.
But still,an artist is respected and valued in the society because,if the artist did go deep enough inside him,the pristine emotions he excavates through craft transcends debates and opinions.Its a river which everyone wants to bath in.Thats why people give great artists a demi god status.The work of the artist brings out the most noble ,most sacred and the most pristine qualities of a human being ,which normally no one exhibits in this world of rat race.
It’s quite a risk a creative person takes to monetise his creativity alone.High risk-High reward.
Joe : Barton, all that is fine. What I’m trying to say is, your dreams may not come to reality and you have to deal with it. When the wrong expectations are set when we grow up, this shit’s going to be REALLY difficult.
Me : Hello moderator, I’d like to pitch in my idea too..😜
Dream, hopes, reality, expectations these are all words that would topple even the most stable minds if said in a single breath.
Just an example to perhaps shed light on a perspective, In a ship’s crew base there are mainly 3 departments- the deck department, the engineering department and the stewards department ( the labourers of sorts)
Now, If i say that my hope is to be the captain and lead the ship above and beyond, it may not sound like a far-fetched dream. But if in a structured ship, all the personnel in the departments wish to become just the deck crew.. imagine what would become of the ship!
In our scenario, we are today in the department of steward, working our ass off, unnoticed and underappreciated. But with time and our constantly evolving wit, we ascend to higher departments till we reach the deck.
And ofcourse, when we do and we lead the crew as the captain, sailing into the sunset and being in the moment will make all the pain and suffering worth the while! ☺️
Joe : What I’m saying is more like this: I want to be an astronaut. I’ve always wanted to. But I’m a labourer in a ship. Now I can either forget my dream of being an astronaut and work my ass off and become the captain of the ship decades later which is cool and all that, but it’s not my dream. Not something I grew up wanting to be. Or, I quit my job in the ship, take a huge-ass risk of being an astronaut like the ones I admired, the ones I read about and saw on TV (which only highlights the successful ones and not their hardships and definitely not the thousands and thousands who tried and failed) by joining a training camp. There’s a huge probability that I could fail, especially when considering there’s so much competition and people with privilege who were groomed from a young age, who are able to get into good training and have higher prospects of becoming an astronaut.
Either way, there’s suffering. If my parents hadn’t told me I was special and that I’m only one of billions and if the society (and its success stories) had only not told that you can be whatever you want to be if you work hard and if you’re determined, this shit would have been easy.
If I was taught to be happy no matter what I become, instead of all those false hopes and promises, I wouldn’t waste away my life in guilt and regret of never becoming who I’ve always wanted to become.
Me : So, hey. I totally get it. One, because we all studied in DAV “boys” we all knew the expectations with which we all entered the arena. Today, you are able to say that our dreams didn’t turn out the way we imagined because we were exposed to that level of competition and expectations early on in life.
Now, as you said not everyone wants to ascend up the hierarchy in a ship to become a captain. True! At each stage in life we desire different things and imagine ourselves in different positions of power.
As far as “parents hadnt told me..” part is concerned, simply put its the peer pressure that drives our decision making early on in life, because we feel that if he is doing and its working for him perhaps its the right thing to do.
But once we grow up and have witnessed the world we grew up in enough, we realize that we were never in control of our actions or chain of thought. But that dosent make the people around you who guided you and praised you early on saying ” you can be anything”.. wrong, in their way they did the best they could.
Its as they say, you’ll know when you’ll become a parent.
Now, time for reality check: we dont have a time stone or any tool for that matter that can help us correct the wrongs and re forge the path we wished, all we can do is connecting the dots and somehow figuring out the way out in our maze of life.
I too wanted to be different things, someone after 12th.. then someone else after bachelor’s.. and so on.. but each time I failed to be that someone I got to know my strengths and weaknesses better. Its all about figuring out yourself, rather than what could have, should have and would have.
Dwelling in the past can only give regret, but if you take those moments of being held back as a lesson… IT WILL BE THE SLINGSHOT THAT’LL PROPELL YOU RIGHT WHERE U ARE SUPPOSED TO BE!
I believe a debate on a topic such as this, has its different perspectives and each time we think about it, we may excavate a new opinion. But to summarize, I think my comment was sufficient to realize that we may never understand the ending of the story if we dont stay put and listen throughout!